Thanks all of you for playing along. It was nice to hear different viewpoints. Like I said we certainly don't have to agree.
The setup to this post is here.
Basically here is the denouement. (Once when I first teaching I was being observed and got nervous and I said that word as it looks...day-now-ment.... Of course my observer was a former English teacher and I got RIPPED!!)
Here is the aftermath of the incident.....
Ty got in the car when I picked him up and started chatting happily about the camp out. He didn't hesitate to mention there were girls there. He didn't try to hide that fact.
I got very quiet trying to figure out what was going on with girls being there. He just kept on chatting causing me to think maybe I was over-reacting, so I stayed quiet.
After a few minutes I guess he noticed my white knuckles on the steering wheel or maybe my clenched jaw. He asked, "Are you mad at me?"
I told him I had to think it through and determine if I was overreacting or not and we just shouldn't talk until then.
He said he was sorry and that he wondered why I had allowed him to stay.
Duh............Ya told me it was you and one kid. A GUY kid.
So when I got home I discussed it with The Coach. I was really hoping he would say it wasn't a big deal about the neighbor girls and we would deal with the shoddy answer to my text and move on. Instead I went from being the ticked one, to being the voice of reason as The Coach's head exploded and he started looking up military schools on the internet.
The main issue was the fact that I asked who "they" were and Ty did not release all the names. Point 1 - I didn't ask the right followup question. Point 2 - I shouldn't have had to.
As far as the parents......the girls who slept over have lived next door their whole lives. I am sure they are like sisters to him. I am certainly not trying to make anything sordid out of an innocent sleep over. I would have appreciated it had they checked with me, but again the main responsibility is on Ty and me.
He was reminded of OUR expectations. My thinking here is that the first time (well now second) time Ty spends the night with a girl I want it to be at least a big decision, not just some casual thing that happens. I could be wrong in my thinking, but hey..I have been wrong before.
. P$ didn't see any problem with the coed sleep over part.
That is fine with us. P$ is just as dedicated to raising morally sound children as I am. She was allowed to have coed sleepovers when she was a kid and everything turned out just fine. ( I wasn't even allowed to have a boy in my room!)
So there are both sides of the story.
Ty was grounded for two weeks for lying by omission. He seemed to accept his fate. Maybe he even thought he got off easy. I mean really grounded is better than military school.
Furthermore this explains why Ty has been in so many of the pictures I have posted lately. He wasn't allowed to go anywhere without The Coach or me!!
Have YOU ever been to military school? What was the most (non illegal) trouble you ever got into growing up?