There I said it. I really don't.
It is easy to say that since my kids do decently at school. It is also easy to say that since The Coach cares monumentally about grades. (That way I don't have to.)
The more scandalous part of this is that I don't help my kids with homework. I am a slacker.
Even though I am trying to put a humorous spin on this. I really do feel bad sometimes. Don't feel sorry for me though, because I haven't started doing anything differently.
I do better with the older kids. I have been a secondary level educator for seventeen years now. I can look at their grades online and generally figure out if they have "got it" or not. I can nag them.
As for Saige. I do not help her. She comes in and sits down and does her own homework. Thank God! Her grades are not stellar. She is struggling in math. I could or could not tell you what they are supposed to be learning on any given day.
I don't want to help with homework and here is why.
I think it is stupid.
I don't want to.
I am not blaming the teachers.
I am blaming, "they".
My daughter gets home at 4:00 pm from school. "They" want her to sit and do another hour of work? "They" have already cut her recess to fifteen minutes a day and "They" have limited PE to every other day in elementary school.
Admittedly my daughter is not the fastest homework doer of the world. She is distracted by things like: screaming siblings, cookies (We ARE related you know.) and air. (Again, we ARE related.)
I just think her time could be better spent
riding her bike, playing castle at the park with friends, and texting. (Not really.)
In my mind I know this homework is intended to reinforce lessons learned at school. I also know the teachers only have a limited amount of time to get a wide variety of curriculum requirements taught. I only have a limited time at home to teach her other lessons like the joy of walking in the sunny outdoors, how to make cookies.
No. Everyday at our house is not sunshine and cookies. I would like there to be the potential though and that potential arises when there is no homework!! (Mainly though if "they" didn't require homework I would feel much much less like a slacker mom.)
(I wrote this a while back and yesterday I read an excerpt from Tiger Mom. Now I am thinking I am helping contribute to the Decline of the American Society. I have decided to balance my lackadaisical attitude out by calling her "Garbage" every once in a while and refusing to let her be in a play.)
Is there an area of parenting you would just rather not deal with?